This holiday season, how about we change it up a little.

To make it through the holidays and avoid stress or the “Blues”, try to focus on “Post-Traumatic GROWTH”.  Using the same stimulus, that can at times debilitate someone, can be used to help you grow and overcome your situation or difficulties.


First, make a proclamation to yourself that “Today, I am drawing a new line and this will not defeat me!”

Next, change the focus on your rituals.  Or, in this case, your new rituals.

“Rituals”?  What the heck is that?  We all have little habits that control us, whether we know or not, that we do every day.  So this year, let’s try adjusting our focus slightly.

So, new Ritual No. 1 is – Let’s get real with ourselves.  We have this delusion in our society today, that IF we get everything the way we want it, we will be happy.

Ritual No. 2 – A ritual of Focus.  What you focus on is what you feel.  Most people focus on what they can’t control or what they don’t have.  Instead, focus on what you have and be thankful and grateful.  What if, at the beginning of each day you wrote down all that you are thankful for from the day before?  It can put you in a different state where you can help someone.

Ritual No. 3 – A ritual of Action.  What are you going to do so that you have enough physical energy to deal with the challenges you are going to face?  It has been scientifically proven that exercising 3 times a week for 20 minutes has an anti-depression effect on your body.   Make time to take a walk.  All you have to do is walk 10 minutes away from home…suddenly you have  a 20 minute walk accomplished.  And remember, I said walk, not stroll.  When you  make it a “power” walk, you will find how the fresh air will clear your mind and improve AND focus your thoughts.  Do you think this time can be used to make a “Action Plan”?

Ritual No. 4 – A ritual of Giving.  Research has shown that if you do 5 acts of kindness a week, it positively affects your life for the next 3 weeks (wow!).

I hope this will help you find the freedom to become the person you’re meant to be, to love, and to accept love, to make good decisions.  Will you join me on these new rituals?



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